RELATIONSHIP COACHING FOR MEN
WITH HEART
Whether you feel isolated or misunderstood, don't know how to connect with women or your partner, are nervous about owning your masculinity, have suppressed your emotions, or are confused about what it means to be a man in the modern era, let's talk. I've been through all of this and more, and I promise it gets way better.
THE TRANSFORMATION
Go from nervous or confused about women to understanding them — and having them understand and support you.
Learn to get in touch with your emotions and express them in healthy ways, with guidance from somebody who's been there.
Learn to embrace the powerful force of masculinity within you — without shame or fear — and direct it toward the life and relationships you want.
Become the strong, healthy, sensitive man that women love and open to.
While there is some overlap with talk therapy, the format and my background are different than what you've likely encountered before. I tend to stay away from analysis, tips, and tricks to focus on bringing real support to the parts of you that have been shut down for months, years, or decades. I know that sounds simplistic, but that's because the process is actually very simple. Once you experience it with me, you'll learn how to do it for yourself and others.
THE JOURNEY
Discovery Call.
A free, 30 minute call to discuss what's real in your world and if I can be of service to you.
Single sessions or committed change.
Whether you want to go at your own pace or commit to 3 months of focussed work together, we start with a mapping session. We look at where you've been, where you are now, where you're stuck, and how you want to grow. This gives us direction as we move through subsequent sessions.
You guide the process.
From there, we dive deep and work on changing the stories that are keeping you from accessing your full potential. Each session is guided by what you bring to the table that day, and by what showed up in your mapping session. I mix and match approaches — body-based and talk-based — to help you get the results you want in love and life. You don't need to figure anything out — that happens naturally through this process. All you need to do is show up with an open heart and a willingness to step forward.
Transform the source.
Whatever challenges you're facing today have roots in the past. I don't believe in staying focussed on trauma, but it is important to revisit the experiences that shaped you to build awareness of the patterns running the show today. Awareness is the first piece. I'll also teach you how to rewire the infrastructure that led to these patterns by guiding you though a process that works universally, and shows up in different systems under different names. Inner child work and reparenting is one name. Somatic internal family systems is another. Shamanic soul retrieval is yet another. The name of the approach isn't important — it's the results that count.
Move it through your body.
We won't just talk. Your mind, body, and nervous system are an integrated whole, and that's what we work with. Breath, guided meditation, embodied practices, and — if in person — therapeutic bodywork, can unlock what conversation alone doesn't always reach.
A better default emerges.
As you get to know your body, your emotions, your reactions, and most importantly, as you learn to build healthy support in your life, you'll experience real changes. You'll learn the difference between doing your best and pushing too hard. You'll learn that sometimes, slowing down and softening is the key to resolving pain and connecting with women. You'll learn how to draw on a deep pool of internal resource, so that you can show up as the man you want to be.
Plant allies — if and when you're ready.
Cannabis and other botanicals can be a gamechanger for self-reflection and growth when harnessed properly — but they can also be abused. Learn how to integrate these medicines in a way that creates resource and connection.
We close together.
A final session to land the work and look at what's next.
I'M CHRIS
I've lived through challenge in love and come out the other side of it.
The frustration, the confusion, the sense of isolation. Projections — getting angry or believing things about my partner that weren’t true — sabotaged relationship after relationship. As soon as I bumped up against my own confusion as a man, it showed. I acted out in unskillful ways, saying things that I knew I'd regret, or doing things that I knew would hurt both of us. It's not like I wanted to cause harm, but I didn't know how else to be as a man. I loved each of these women deeply, but lacked the communication skills, emotional intelligence, and self-reflection necessary to keep our connection strong. Just as importantly, we lacked the framework to course-correct and recover from these ruptures.
Nobody taught me how in school. The government and the media sure didn't. And my parents were mostly fumbling their own way through patterns of struggle. And without those skills, every single relationship I had went one of two ways: it either ended, or it slowly withered until we were both living inside the ghost of a relationship.
I’m not perfect, I don't have all the answers, and I'm still learning. But over the years I've learned to listen deeply to women, and respond with the delicate balance of grace, boundaries, and kindness that creates safety. I read the subtle signals in body language, posture, vocal tones, and more — and can teach you to do the same. I've practiced movement forms like partner acrobatics and contact improvisation that require trust, deep listening, skillful communication, self-knowledge, and commitment. There's a subtlety and mindset to relationship that is easy to dismiss, but in my experience is absolutely crucial to harmony.
When a relationship deepens, it’s like a flower blooming. It's a beautiful thing, and you can’t rush it. You can't force it to open, and no amount of pleading, coercion or manipulation is going to change it. If you try those approaches, you’ll just damage the flower. But I believe every single man has a deep desire to see the woman — or women — they care about blossom fully into trust, connection, and depth with them.
When you want a flower to open, all you can do is support it with patience, with care, and a deep appreciation. Simple ingredients, no force. Self-knowledge, honesty, kindness, and trust are the ingredients that support any healthy relationship to grow to its full potential.
Self-knowledge, honesty, kindness, and trust. Not the standard playbook for many men. But I promise you, from my own decades of trial and error — and ultimately, success — these are the keys to a woman's heart, and to successful relationship.
Learn how with me.
I work online worldwide, and in-person in Costa Rica and Western Canada.