RELATIONSHIP AND COUPLES COACHING FOR PARTNERS READY TO RECONNECT
REKINDLE
Rebuild closeness, ease, and trust. See meaningful changes in weeks — the invisible weight lifting, new flickers of tenderness, easier communication, and a greater sense of love, trust, and flow. Change your relationship with skilled guidance and tools that last a lifetime.
WHAT OPENS UP
Looking forward to coming home to each other with excitment.
Touching your partner and feeling real desire — without needing to force anything.
Saying challenging things without it blowing up — and growing closer through it.
Understanding why you keep ending up in the same frustrating places — and learning how to steer out of them.
While there is some overlap with talk therapy, the format and my background are different than what you've likely encountered before. I tend to stay away from analysis, tips, and tricks to get to the roots — what's stuck in your body, your habits, and your nervous system. The patterns preventing deep connection are often older than your current relationship. When we change the roots, everything else shifts dramatically.
THE JOURNEY
We start together.
A discovery call with both partners present. We talk about where you are, what's been going on, and whether working together is a good fit.
Then we work one-on-one.
Your first session is a mapping session — one-on-one, where we map out what's happening both on and under the surface. A lot shows up in this session through what you share and the way you share it. The focus isn't on resolving anything in this session, but rather learning more about who you are and what patterns may be driving the distance, numbness, or frustration. This becomes the compass for the rest of our work together, and continues to evolve.
You guide the process.
From there, I continue to work with each of you individually to create a safe space to share, dig deep, and transform. Whatever you share with me stays between us and isn't shared with your partner. Each session is guided by what's present for you and by what showed up in your mapping session — not a fixed program. I draw from a deep range of relational and body-based practices, choosing what serves the moment best. You don't need to have it figured out or know the right words. You just have to show up and be willing to step forward.
Transform the source.
Most of what keeps couples stuck didn't start in the relationship. It can come from past relationships, unmet childhood needs, or intergenerational trauma. These play out as withdrawal, blame, lost desire, sexual shutdown, chronic tension, even your kids acting out. When you resolve these patterns, trust and connection open up naturally.
Move it through your body.
This isn't just talk. The patterns that keep you stuck live in your nervous system as much as your mind. Through breath, embodied practices, and — in person — guided touch, we access what conversation alone can't reach. If you've been stuck in mental loops, you'll learn how breath and embodiment guide you home.
A better default emerges.
The first changes might come fast, or more slowly. They might be big or small. A look across the room with tenderness. And conversation that stays open without going sideways. A gentle touch that lands. And over time, trust rebuilds, desire returns by itself, and you get to experience your relationship the way you want it to be. You'll learn to do this work for yourselves, so the changes last long after we're done.
Plant allies — if and when you're ready.
For couples who are drawn to it, I can offer guidance on integrating cannabis and other plants into your relationship to soften defenses and open honest conversation. This is never a requirement, and never pushed on you — just availabile, if and when you're both ready.
We close together.
A final session with both partners to land the work, honor what's shifted, and look at what's ahead.
I'M CHRIS
I've learned that how you relate to yourself is reflected in how you relate to everyone else. And that most relationship problems aren't really about the relationship.
I work with couples who still care about each other but have lost the thread — the closeness, the ease, the feeling of being on the same team. What's keeping you stuck usually has nothing to do with your partner and everything to do with patterns that started long before you met.
Available online worldwide, and in-person in Costa Rica and Western Canada.
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I work with couples of all kinds — all genders, all orientations, all relationship structures.
My work is trauma-responsive and growth-oriented.